Men

Riddle me this, Batman............why is it that men can be such insensitive jerks one minute, yet nice and sweet otherwise? No, I'm not talking about my husband. I'm talking about Men in general.

Tonight at Tanner's softball game, she was batting and got hit HARD square on the shoulder blade. She knew the pitch was going to hit her but didn't have time to get out of the box, so she turned her shoulder towards the pitcher to block it. Well the ball got her smack dab on the shoulder blade-hard. She had the imprint of the ball, along with some of the stitches imprinted on her.

After she got hit, she immediately looked at her Dad and I, and we (all the parents) were telling her good job way to be tough. Well she got to first base, turned away and started to cry. I got down and went onto the field. Keep in mind that she's been hit five or six times this season and hasn't cried one time. She's a tough girl, but even tough girls cry from time to time.

When I got to her on the field, I told her she needed to keep playing. The team was shorthanded as it was and needed her on the field. Did i give her sympathy? Hell yea, I did. You should have heard the sound it made when it hit! But along with that sympathy I told her she needed to go ahead and finish what was started. At one point, I motioned for the Coach (who was coaching third base) to come over because I wanted him to help encourage her to keep playing. That jack ass never came over to her. I convinced her to keep playing and when she got to third, he told her to "suck it up."

I don't care if your the star player or if your the worst player. I don't care how old you are-if you are coaching a sporting event of any sort and one of your players gets hurt-you, as the Coach, should go check on them. Yea, not this guy. PISSED me off. After the game, he gave Tanner her pictures. She was standing right by her and she told him "thank you." He didn't even acknowledge her. It's a good thing that this was the last game of the season because I'm not sure I could keep my mouth shut the next time I had to see this "softball Nazi", I mean the coach. She will NOT be playing with him next year, that's for sure.

Then there's her Dad. Let me say that I'm sure he means well in situations like this. I now he wants Tanner to be a tough girl. I know he doesn't have any sisters so he doesn't know how much girls love and look up to their daddies. Mike has never been super sensitive to begin with. He basically told Tanner that she could "milk it for all it's worth" tonight and then she's not to say anything more about it.

She was heartbroken after the game because all Mike did was tell her to "suck it up" or something along those lines. I told her men are mean that way and they just don't understand. It took me YEARS to figure that out, I know my twelve year old doesn't understand it at all!

When I talked to Mike later on tonight, I remind him that she's a girl, she got hit hard and she is sore. Even tough girls cry. Tanner has definitely proven that she's not afraid of the ball-praise her for that, don't just tell her to "shake it off!" Again, just another insensitive man.

Luckily after i talked to Mike, I talked to Jill and she and I are on the same page about all of this. She talked to Mike and explained that Tanner just wants some validation and to know that Daddy cares. He's supposed to talk to her in the morning. I hope and pray that he does because it would mean the world to her to know that her dad feels bad for her. He doesn't have to make a huge deal out of it, just tell her that she did great and that it's going to hurt for a few days, but it's goin to be ok.

I need to end this. I'm dozing off at the somputer=not a good thing. Sorry if this blog seems sparadict.

I'll try to post pictures tomorrow maybe!